If we are not ready, everything will challenge our very existence and simply hurts too badly to be illuminated.
The ego-self is designed to survive and grips so tightly that it lashes out on anything that threatens it.
I appreciate don Miguel Ruiz‘s take on it in The Mastery of Love..
“I want you to imagine that you live on a planet where everyone has a skin disease.
For two or three thousand years, the people on your planet have suffered the same disease: Their entire bodies are covered by wounds that are infected, and those wounds really hurt when you touch them.
Of course, they believe this is a normal physiology of the skin. Even the medical books describe this disease as a normal condition.
When the people are born, their skin is healthy, but around three or four years of age, the first wounds start to appear. By the time they are teenagers, there are wounds all over their bodies.
Can you imagine how these people are going to treat each other? In order to relate with one another, they have to protect their wounds.
They hardly ever touch each other’s skin because it is too painful. If by accident you touch someone’s skin, it is so painful that right away she gets angry and touches your skin, just to get even.
Still, the instinct to love is so strong that you pay a high price to have relationships with others.”
Miguel speaks about spreading emotional poison into others to release the emotional pain.
The problem here is that when it is released into someone else, they now have to navigate it.
The conscious person will recognize this and stop the cycle.
The unconscious, committed-to-their-patterns person will blame others and project.
…projection is a powerful, primal safety mechanism. The lesser evolved aspect of our brain and neurology – although a large part of who we are.
PROJECTION: Projection is a theory in which humans defend themselves against their own unconscious impulses or qualities (both positive and negative) by denying their existence in themselves while attributing them to others.
Now, we are all doing this.
We all have skin wounds.
We all spread emotional poison.
…the key is to be aware of this and STOP the cycle.
We MUST become more aware.
Awareness first, then everything after..
“the human mind is sick with a disease called fear. Just like the description of the infected skin, the emotional body is full of wounds, and these wounds are infected with emotional poison.
The manifestation of the disease of fear is anger, hate, sadness, envy, and hypocrisy; the result of the disease is all the emotions that make humans suffer.”
Many people have come into my life and spread their emotional poison in one form or another, with the attempt of releasing their pain to lessen it, spreading it into me.
…the one thing I know as this..
As we RISE IN LOVE, we continue to transform our dragon (our emotional pain-body) into an ally.
“There is such a thing as old emotional pain living inside you. It is an accumulation of painful life experience that was not fully faced and accepted in the moment it arose. It leaves behind an energy form of emotional pain.”
The more we become aware of this, the more we can break the vicious cycle.
More from Miguel..
“…imagine that a miracle occurs one day. You awake and your skin is completely healed. There are no wounds anymore, and it doesn’t hurt to be touched.
Healthy skin you can touch feels wonderful because the skin is made for perception. Can you imagine yourself with healthy skin in a world where everyone has a skin disease?
You cannot touch others because it hurts them, and no one touches you because they make the assumption that it will hurt you.”
Learning to navigate our wounding, to forgive, to find compassion is so important.
I pray that the work we do in the world awakens even one person to their skin wounding and pain-body and liberates them long enough to step into the opportunity for transformation.
The possibility of it.
That we ALL have the courage to look within and find, face and ride our dragon.
To love every aspect of ourselves.
If not, it will continue on and be spread to others.
LOVING WHAT IS and loving our dragon is the only way through.
Miguel shares all about this on our interview..
I am excited to share it with you all very soon.
With love, courage and grace…